This week’s #CommitToFit challenge from Subway Canada was to recruit a buddy to workout with. It is proven that working out with a buddy can increase your commitment by having someone else hold you accountable to your goals.
This has always had the opposite effect on me.
I don’t like working out or doing any work-out related activities with anyone I know. When this challenge came up, I had already had it in my mind that I was going to fail. I totally psyched myself out of the game and I struggled through this week to maintain all of the previous week’s challenges that now felt like they were crumbling down around me.
Now, I’m guessing that Subway Canada is working with me on this challenge because I am human (like everyone else who is part of #CarlsCrew <— that’s a hashtag, check us out on Twitter). And as said ‘human’, I will hit obstacles that set me back, I may stumble, and I may even do a face-plant, but the one thing I won’t do is give up on the end result.
So back to the start of the week. I don’t like to ask friends, family, or anyone to workout with me. Nothing personal, just a preference. I’ve tried in the past, but as soon as my ‘buddy’ decided they weren’t into it, I used it as a reason to stop as well. Discouraging voices, echoing in my head told me that if my friend didn’t find it useful, then it probably wasn’t.
Now I’m a grown woman. I know exercise and health is important. I just don’t want to face that situation. Ever. Again.
So I prefer to do my own thing, and exercise around strangers with no connections to me. It may not be the best option, but it works better for me as I can often pick myself up faster if I have a setback — like I did this week.
When I can’t accomplish something on the way to my goal, other parts of my foundation start to weaken. I start to doubt my other milestones, and I get knocked off of my resolve a bit. This caught me off-guard because I knew it was coming, but as I began to live through the week, I felt myself begin to give in to defeat.
Although I forced myself to continue on with my progress so far, I didn’t talk about the challenge much this week because I was embarrassed that I was doing so poorly. “Really? I can’t bring myself to find one friend to workout with?”
So I felt bad for myself for a couple of days.
Then I forgave myself, and allowed myself a failure. Then I loved myself enough to get back up and keep going.
The truth is that we experience setbacks, obstacles, and road blocks on our way to our goal. If you stumble, forgive yourself, dust yourself off, and get back on track.
Carl, our mentor during this series of challenges adds a quote of inspiration to his emails each week. Here are a few of my own favourites that I find fitting right now.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas A. Edison“You never fail until you stop trying.” Albert Einstein
#CommitToFit challenges. Opinions are my own.