The day begins bright and early except I don’t feel so wide awake. It must have been something on my mind last night as I was falling asleep.
So what is on my list for today. I can’t miss a thing.
Let’s start with Twitter, I like it there. ‘Buy this’, ‘read that’, ‘consume’, ‘convert’, ‘conform’… Wait, that’s a cool opportunity. How did I miss that? Who is that through? I need to follow them, and the company, and their dog. Why didn’t I get that? How is Susan giving away a car? I should totally have gotten that, I wrote about a car on my blog once. I’ll need to stalk Susan on Facebook later and see what groups she’s in.
Back to Twitter.
Why is no one just talking about their day? I can’t engage anymore and I want to say something or it will look like I don’t engage either.
Now I can move on… wait. How is everyone but me talking about a trip they are going on? Where do I need to go to be noticed for that? Oh forget it. I hate Twitter. I’m going to stalk Susan on Facebook now.
My Facebook sidebar is showing me that all of my fellow creators are joining these 5 groups. I’m in, where do I sign up? Okay, all I need to do for this one is tweet 20 things a day, people will tweet me back and I think they share some opportunities in here. This must be where Susan got the car opp.
Time for email. This ‘networking’ must be paying off.
This looks promising. I will be sent a box of cereal and underarm deodorant for two blog posts, one video and 10 shares through my social network channels. They don’t have a budget (they’re sure I understand) but they will keep me in mind for future opportunities. I don’t want to lose this connection, it looks so promising. Plus I get hungry and I smell so it’s a win win. I can sell my community for that. I can’t miss out on ‘future opportunities’.
Next email. There’s a new conference announcement. Crap! Sally Johnson, the CEO of Important Company is going to be there talking about what they look for in the content creators they work with. I don’t really care about the rest of the conference, but I think I should go. You know, to listen to her speak and maybe get my business card into her hands because business cards mean way more than a sincere email reaching out to initiate a new relationship does, right? Plus everyone else will be there and I don’t want to look like I’m not serious. Okay, that alone is worth the $3500 price tag.
Whew! Where did the day go? Seriously, I worked so hard today and I didn’t even get a post up on the site, or tend to those critical site issues. I’m sure that can wait until tomorrow. I’m ready for sleep.
Good night internets.
— and now, read back to the top and start again. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
Or stop the cycle.
It’s called Fear of Missing Out or FOMO and many experience some form of it on a daily basis. It is exacerbated by the internet and our easy access into everyone’s lives.
From the minute you log into Facebook, or any social network, we are force-fed other’s versions of success and happiness. And we fall for it, hook, line, and sinker. Fear of missing out comes gleefully skipping into our world and we begin the quest of making up for our lack of ‘other’s versions of success and happiness’.
We make up for it by going after more and more with a complete disregard for what we have already.
[Tweet “Someone else’s success isn’t your failure.”]
We sometimes don’t even stop to think if that is what we really want. We just know that there must be something missing.
I’ll tell you a secret. Something is missing.
Gratitude for what you have in your life. Be thankful for what you already have without the desire to look for more. Nurture the connections you have, both personally and professionally.
While you are too busy coveting the things that someone else has that you don’t, you don’t notice the people looking at what you have that they don’t.
If you truly struggle with FOMO and it is a growing negative influence in your life, excuse yourself from ‘other’s versions of success and happiness’ for awhile. Focus on what your version of success and happiness is. Write it down, remember it, build on it until you are strong enough to visit those networks and read those emails with a stronger sense of your self and your values. It doesn’t mean cutting ties, it means making your life a priority and releasing yourself from negative, restrictive feelings that are unnecessary in the first place.
When you are grateful and you have an understanding of what you have and what you want, it is easier to celebrate another’s success without taking away from your happiness.
Then FOMO begins to disappear.