I was thinking about this as I woke up this morning so stick with me here.
I often hear the term ‘new parent’ or ‘first-time parent’ given only to those who have just had their first child. I found myself wondering “When do we lose that honour?”
I came to the conclusion today that we really never do. I also came to my own personal conclusion that deep down, you become a ‘new parent’ the moment you decide to have your first child regardless if you are successful or not.
In that moment you make the choice to bring a wonderful new life in to this world, you make small changes in your life to better yourself, your health or something else you feel will benefit your little one down the road. You become suddenly aware of some dangers you never noticed before. You notice that kid who constantly rides his bike down your back lane to meet his friends is actually dealing drugs just past your own back yard (it happened, we moved!).
I also argue that you never lose the term ‘new parent’. I will be a new parent for the rest of my life, no matter what happens now – and I love it. I will be a new parent when Baby Bird finally gets her last tooth in, I’ll be a new parent when she starts to lose her baby teeth, when she starts kindergarten, when she fights with her first BFF, when she passes or fails her first test, breaks a bone, loses a game, finds true love, gets her heart broken, gets her first job, graduates, finds real true love, marries, becomes a ‘new parent’ herself.
Until the moment I die, I will always be a new parent. Even if we decide to have a second child, I’ll be a new parent to all of the new adventures that this different dynamic will bring.